Are You Currently Compromising?

Good Morning DINKS.  I am wondering if you married your perfect match.  Does a perfect match in a relationship really exist, or to a certain extent are we always compromising to be with our loved one?

Personal goals and money views are only two small aspects in every relationship, and they may be two aspects where people always compromise in a relationship.  If we don’t agree on these two aspects with our spouse we can still make our relationship work because there are many other important aspects to a good relationship.  If we throw in some trust, and commitment, with some communication, some love and even a little bit of compromise we could find ourselves in the perfect relationship.

Love and Money do go hand in hand but they are also total opposites. Love is something that we cannot control; money on the other hand is a tangible asset of which we can control both the inflow and outflow.  It is very rare that a couple shares the exact same personal and financial goals  when it comes to both love and money, this is why we have to be willing to make some compromises in order to be with our loved one. We may currently compromise because we are currently choosing love over money, but this may not always be the case.

It may be very hard to plan our life with someone who doesn’t share the same passions and life goals.  But if the love that we have for our spouse is stronger than the passion we have for our life goals then we can make small compromises to be with the one we love.  A disagreement on our personal goals can only impact our relationship as much as we let it, and our relationship can only impact our plan to achieve our personal goals as much as we let it. Compromise in a relationship only works if both people are compromising to some point in the relationship. A compromise is not necessarily a sacrifice, it is just an adjustment.

Love and money are usually a package deal because planning our life goals with someone also requires money management in our relationship as a couple.  Money can be a big source of stress in a relationship and sometimes if the money goes out of a relationship so does the love.  In a relationship we may have love without the money, or vice versa; but with a little planning and a little bit of compromise hopefully we will be lucky enough to have them both.

Life planning for couples becomes a compromise if we don’t always agree on how to manage our money, where to take our vacations, or when to start having a family.  One spouse may have to be willing to give up some things they love in order to be with the one they love.  If we are willing to make small compromises on our personal goals and life planning then we can keep the one we love and make a new plan for our lives together.

What are you currently compromising to be with your loved one?

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Kristina Tahnyak

Tahnya is a Certified Financial Planner and former Investment Advisor turned marketing and communications professional She holds a degree from Concordia University, is debt free and currently works in the field of digital marketing.